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Excuses, Excuses, Excuses…
April 27th, 2010
Hey Everyone… Check out why I am so, so, so sick of excuses!!
Listen to my list of why people are stuck and choosing to stay stuck… and Add the ones you’ve heard!
Make sure to leave your comments below… I’d love to hear the crazy things you’ve all heard and also how you think we can change this mentality in our world to something POSITIVE!
Until Next Time,
Dr. Mike
This is my first time reading your blog, but I can already tell you that I love it! Keep up the great work!
These have to be some of the greatest comments! – Boy do you people get it! – And like me, you people sure are exposed to a lot of whiners, and complainers out there in the world today – But remember to always learn from them “how not to be”
I really enjoyed the video, always remmember attitude is 50% of everything.
Dave Van Pelt
Its not only the excuses, its the enabling by many others creating a cultural tolerance threshold and acceptance for this behavior. It enables the deflecting of personal accountability, splintering and fragmenting to third parties until it is so diluted no one is to blame and everyone is to blame…a clever consequence of those offering excuses.
I’m too busy. People aren’t too busy, they aren’t productive. Woody Hayes said, “The only thing even and equal in the world is the number of hours in a day. The difference in winning or loosing is what you do with those hours.” It’s your choice how you spend your time, try making better choices with your it.
Learned helplessness, “poor me” is a state of BEING…… If it were not for my parents, grandparents, or etc. my life would be different. This is not the same as “hopelessness” which is used to measure depression. All you have to do is turn on the TV and one can find a cure for any problem, except for take control of your own fate, show up and be counted!!!!
Quit making excuses! “He that is good at making excuses, is good at nothing else!”
I love it… I’m laughing and nodding at the same time. People need to take responsibility for themselves!
Every day people make choices… and lots of them. It’s the series of choices that get them to where they are. Not the government, their job, or their family. Start making different and better choices and things will turn around.
Keep ‘em coming Dr. Mike!
Mike! We run across the ‘ya but’ sooooo much, we’ve actually instituted what we call the “but-and-so” principle with our client training series. But-And-So works like this: when we hear someone say “we need to increase our sales, BUT the economy is really bad…” we ask them to replace the ‘but’ with ‘and’ – “We need to increase our sales, AND the economy is really bad…” This forces the person to look at the statement as two different problems, rather than allowing the second statement (after the but) to become an excuse for not solving the problem defined in the first statement (before the but).
To define the solution – add “SO” to the end… “We need to increase our sales, AND the economy is really bad… SO…”
I would go on BUT I’ve run out of time… lol
I just don’t have room on my plate to do one more thing! My ankles hurt, my car broke down, my dog is sick, and my mother ran away with the milkman when I was 5, and my dad sure missed the milkman! I’m just not smart enough, it’s in the DNA! I hated school, so it’s no wonder my son does. My boss is stupid. My spouse is stupid. I have soft-tissue damage. Everything I eat turns right to fat! Oh, I could do this all day!
Thanks for posting this Dr. Mike made me laugh! Now for a serious quote. “People are not what they think they are…but rather…what people think…they are!”
“We have never done it that way before!” These folks drive me nuts. Not even willing to look at another option or better way of doing things. They get comfortable in their own position and world, they aren’t willing to actually look around and get perspective on the issue at hand. As a result, we get more complaining and mopping around about all the problems in the world. I have always liked, “if you are not part of the solution, you are indeed the problem”.
Thanks,
Hi Dr. Mike,
I agree with you, excuses suck. Where do people get off shirking responsibility for every little thing that happens to them?
And now the kids have picked up on it, as only kids can do. The school system says they can make all the failure excuses they want because to be politically correct they can’t fail in school.
What a great lesson to teach our children.
And don’t get me started on the workplace and adults who are constantly moaning and whining about their jobs, the economy. their kids bad behavior…gee, I wonder where the kids picked that habit up?
Keep em’ coming Dr. Mike. You’ve hit the sweet spot once again.
Hey Dr. Mike! I’ve got one for you. People like to think they are somehow a victim of bad health. Bad health is most often a result of choices people make each and every day. You didn’t get out of shape in one week, yet some people think taking a magical pill or having a surgery should fix everything. By the way, I used to be one of those people!
“I’d be doing well if it weren’t for this economy.” I’m so sick of hearing that and at the same time I pity the person who says it…”pity” as in they are pathetic. As I’m writing this, I have to wonder how much of this applies to me. What bothers us about others is really what bothers us about ourselves. So, maybe I need to consider that this excuse bothers me because deep down that’s the way I feel. So, am I just as pathetic even thought I don’t go around blaming the economy? I’m going to say no, because I am being proactive. But now that I’ve exposed myself, maybe I can let go of the excuse within.
“I am just like my “….. It drives me crazy when people blame their current situation or mindset on their family!
Grow up! As adults we have the freedom to make choices and as a result changes. It all goes back to taking responsibility for the choices that YOU make. You can blame your family for the high blood pressure but not ignorance!
“My kids have BAD teachers! They’re boring, don’t know how to handle kids, and pick on my child.” Never mind that kids are addicted to technological devices (texting, games, etc.) and are allowed to not read or study. And just ONE child consistently behaving badly can render any lesson unteachable. Many parents prefer to blame the schools rather than take control of those technological toys and insist on good behavior.
I have to think a bout the ya buts and the excuses
Awesome Blog
Cathy
Great video Dr. Mike! The “Yeah But” is all so true…everything that comes after the “BUT” is a worthless excuse.
The age-old “I dont have enough time” excuse is also one that really can vanquish people’s dreams and desires. Keep up the great work!!
But we’ve ALWAYS done it this way! (usually in response to some change that they don’t want to embrace or put any effort into because it might take them out of their comfort zone) Heaven forbid we do that!!!!!